Monthly Archives: February 2016

Female Foeticide versus Lifelong Socio-cultural Sadism?

 © Dr. Rajas Deshpande

Whenever female foeticide is discussed, many self-crowned intellectuals run the horses of their pseudo-western philosophy against the entire medical profession. Some irresponsible media asks opinions of the very same majority people for whom our desi government has to run billion dollar campaigns, educating them to shit in the toilet. Might as well ask them the solutions for global warming, terrorism and corruption!

What does our society do once a female child is born (again with the help of doctors)? 

Daughter, Sister, Wife and Mother: almost every female around us (except probably a girlfriend) is taken advantage of, ordered around, made to compromise, told that she must accept the limitations of being a woman, and in general made to live an enslaved and dependant life, under sweet names of love, responsibility, security and a “bad world for women out there”. Who makes this bad world?

In many cultures, the girl child is fed poorly: typically the ghee and sweets and “costlier” food goes to the male child, especially in big poor families. Even the rich and educated are seen having many daughters in a hope to have a male child, and after having one, spending far more on that male child. The girl child has little freedom to dress by choice and play, and is forced to believe from pre-adolescence that kitchen and bedroom are her workplaces for life. Many parents are averse to the idea of their girl child going to parlours or theaters and opting for friends, hobbies or even hairstyles of her choice.

Many parents do not spend upon the education of a female child, the “prime investment” goes in educating the male child even when the female child is smarter, intelligent and hard working.  A girl wanting to pursue higher studies is mentally raped by umpteen relatives who pressurise her parents into shame if she is not “married away” before 25 years of age. (RAMP syndrome: “Relatives Affected with Marriage Psychosis). The dreams of a female child are killed every moment, almost all her active life.  Most men in all fields opt that their wives “look after the kids and home” even if equally educated or better in some cases. While some recent generations encourage equality, this is only urban. A girl is trained to think and say “ I enjoy staying at home and looking after the family as this is what a woman is supposed to do. It is okay for the husband to come home tired or drunk, hit me if angry, and in general to take me perpetually for granted”.

Let a grown up girl walk on any street in India and watch our “manly” public’s eyes following her. You will understand how many of them truly respect women. Let a woman grow socially or at work, and observe the comments of her colleagues about her character. Let a woman decide to marry for love, and there are open decrees to kill her. In a country which runs local trains with one out of ten coaches for women, and reserves four out of twenty seats for ‘ladies’ in a bus, how many people really care for equality of a female foetus and it’s life? In a country where women have to be elected by reserving electorates across male-dominant cultures, who will enforce respect of a poor girl child?

In a society which wakes up to graphic contents of rapes and murders of females aged few months to upto seventy years, how many will stand up actually when a female is being raped or murdered? It is easy to shoot hate content against an educated, civil, non-violent community of doctors. It is easy to blame an entire profession for the faults of a few greedy doctors. Do these “pseudoactivists” have enough courage to stand up against their own female-enslaving culture? Do they have courage to treat their own wives, sisters and daughters at par with men in their own family/ community?

 On every street in every metropolis, hundreds of children – girls and boys- are made to beg naked, dancing, cleaning cars and ever hungry. Where are all the activists who fight for the agony of unborn female foetus? What are your plans for the already born female children begging insecure across the country on every street? Also, one wonders about their views on “male foeticide”, a common abortion. How come male child murders are forgiven? Some of these “pseudoactivists” are like typical orthodox husbands, who flirt with their female colleagues at work talking about freedom, but take an offence when their wife talks to other men.

Female foeticide is ugly, bad blot on our society. It must end. But please stop pinning the entire blame on the medical profession. The facts mentioned above are enough proof that even without the doctor being involved, our society continues to be extremely unjust and cruel to women. Introspect. The female foetuses must be saved. But after their birth they must also be nurtured, loved, respected, treated with genuine equality and given equal socio-cultural freedom. Do these activists have guts to fight for that? There should be a precondition for every “activist” of this cause to adopt at least one girl child, and look after her proper food and education giving her complete freedom.

Activism for females should not stop once they are born.

PS: The radiologists and gynaecologists / obstetricians have a lot more practice beyond and unrelated to abortions, and are far more human in caring for women than most of the society. None of the doctors starves without this “abortion business” as claimed by some activists and media. In a country where there is huge shortage of expert doctors, it is ridiculous that they have been made the easy targets for everyone’s mudslinging.  

Jai Hind.

(c) Dr. Rajas Deshpande